Here is
a website with info similar to JMatt's suggestion - with some recommendations.
As suggested, Giffin vises have excellent quality and a reasonable price.
A bobbin holder should have a ceramic tip or tube - they don't get scratches so don't fray thread and floss. Get 2.
Also get two pairs of scissors as suggested, a fine pair for natural materials and thread, and a cheap pair for tough tinsels and copper wire.
A bodkin is really just a large needle stuck into a cork eye-first, or use a corsage pin.
Bobbin threaders are often bent guitar E strings with a handle, but they scratch metal bobbin holders. Get some floss threaders at the drug store - a lifetime supply.
Other tools can be found or made, like velcro on a popsicle stick to roughen nymph dubbing, or an old toothbrush to remove underfur from elk, deer, etc.
Since you live in Stoney Creek, you are close enough to come to the
Winter Hatches Fly Tying Symposium to learn all the basics in one day (and test out some tools - there will be at least one retailer there as well). You could even bring your kids if they are interested.
Good luck!
